Are Choices inevitable or vital?

I was searching for some thorough insight to why we do thing we do in life contemplate our choices at the end we are feeling regretful. Yes, those are the preference we make called choices. When was the last time you contemplate making choices? For instance, we choice to love but we cant be with that someone we love. We choice to love someone but that choice leave us too many expectations in life that at the end, we feel the pain of making choices that we know we will regret it someday but still do it. Yes we can’t have it all as they say. You still have to make a choice. To some it is better to feel the pain because you know you love that someone. To others, they choice not loving someone makes them not feeling any pain at all.

Today, I had the time to compose. And rethink the happy times. Did I make the right choice? I remember the times when I started feelings some butterflies. Yes, those were the happy times. But very painful at times but in time, I can be feeling those butterflies once again. Slow process is good. I put myself time to heal. Yes, I am glad that I feel love and being loved. I choice to feel the pain my mother used to tell me, if a man wants you, nothing could keep him away. If he does not wants you nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a relationship that did not work but learn not to make any changes on you to make the relationship better.

A relationship should be complimentary to both your needs not a supplementary to each once needs In addition a person has to learn to love you for who you are. Like for example say you were pretty when he meet you and for some bad circumstances your physical appearance changes that person that truly loves you will stay and love you for what you are inside. That is what you call true love. What little flows you have, must that person who truly loves you learn to compliment both of you? To sum up what my mother said, a true love involves lots of sacrifices. And it also includes lots of feeling of unselfishness.



More times on the other hand, the fundamental of our choices has more to do to how strong our expectations are thus help us decide what choices we will make. At times I find myself hurting or end up hurting someone. Nowadays, we hear about “self-actualization,” “listening to the inner child,” or “following your heart.” But often, self-focused pursuit of personal happiness exacts a steep toll from “peripheral” relationships. Happiness, like the rainbow, is the by-product of something else. Chasing happiness for its own sake is doomed to frustration and ultimate failure. Like Tantalus in the Greek myth, the more we swallow, the more we crave. Then we say Life is a bitch, but then shit happens everyday. We need to learn through our mistakes but treasure the happy times. Our choices pay the consequences. We go on with our life. But never forget the good times.



I have been asked so many times, why are you still single? Why are you not married? My answer is, I am picky, and I don’t get involve and plays with my feelings. It is not like I choice what dresses compliment my choice of shoe selection. People plays with my heart lots of times and when it does, you tend to loose that trust to someone. And sometimes, you love the wrong person, but that is the choice I made. All I can say, I did not find that person that is complimentary to my expectation and not a supplementary to my needs. To love is easy but to find that person that compliments you in every way is the hardest part to find. Again it boils down to choices. One thing’s for sure: I will spend the rest of my life making choices. That’s a given. And the most fundamental choice of all is deciding how to decide.

Why I am writing this. Because it helps healed the pretense of people of what they think of me. I don’t play around people’s feelings. When I love someone, I love that person for who they are. Learning to know that person who they are. However, there are people that act the way they are to get to you but once they had you, they changes and these are the people that I don t like being associated with. They act something they are not, lots of pretenses. My other friend says, why you put it in your blog for everyone to see. Well, that is a part of me that they shld learn to love me for who I am. I am a person to say what is in my mind, I am a person to tell exactly how I feel, I am a person to do choices that I know I will regret it sometime. That is I and I only. The only entity that made me unique within.. deep in my body and in my soul. An entity that one has to understand to get to know me. I am a person that asks a lot of question. And for those who miss interpreted my actions, and does not like how I act then they are not who I think they are. I don’t hurt people. My action might hurt them but I don’t intended too because that is a part of who I am. If they don’t understand it then so beat it. How I wish that those perceptions of me vanished. Isn’t it what is inside that build the character of a person? It is not what you see outside.



People, might think I don’t have any feelings but I do. I have lots and lots of pain. How so easy for someone to say, I can get someone at the blink of my eye, yes I can if I wanted to but that is not who I am. I love, I got disappointments as anyone here. I found writing here makes me feel at peace. But it took me courage to write this but I just wanted to share this to my closest friends. Yes, I know internet is a place where there is lots of pretense

Lots of fake is going on but I found some that are honest and sincere. I have been away because of this fact that I got tired of the bullshit in the Internet world. But as I read your notes and messages, and someone that caress about me. I am not talking about the people that I just meet here in my my previous 360 site but the real people I meet in life. It is basically the same thing. There is nothing or no less different about it. Some are real and some are fakes. It is those who fakes and plays with your feelings that I feel disgusted with. But lots of times, people that you think are true are not the real truth that is why, time will tell. I have seen some that are real and not so real. You feel it when they are real. I know who you are and I know you know I know. I say this because, what ever makes of you, is you. Nothing can change that. If you love someone, you love for who they are. Hard headed, narrow-minded what ever that might be. If you cannot take it, then that is not truly the person that fits my expectations.

My favorite saying, a friend will bail you out in jail but a true and best friend will sit next to you in jail and say, “Boy that was fun last night, lets do it again.”


Also, Anger and hates does not make it love But the action we do made the word “love” hates us.


So therefore love is pain. It is the choices we do that put our destiny where we can find the love that truly compliments us. Choices are a part of the adversity of our life Learning how to cope with it makes it life so easy.




“Choices are inevitable, right choices are vital”

quotes by Thom Lemmons.